It’s not about you, it’s about them.

Keep on sharing. It really DOES matter.

Who are you? What do you know that is of value to others?

You are you. You are unique and your experiences do really matter to other people. You create value when you share who you are, as well as what you know.

I know that the people marketing and sales would have you believe that all about what you know. It’s not that what you know is not of, or does not create value. It’s more that who you are is an important and integral part of the value created when you share what you know.

People buy people. People buy feelings.

Do you really think that purely what you know is enough to make people spend money? Or is it the outcome that they will achieve for themselves?

I believe it is, for the most part, the latter. By learning from you people hope to get a specific result for themselves. That result, in turn, delivers a specific feeling for that person. The greater that feeling is in importance to them, then the greater the value it has to them.

This is where commerce comes into play. The people that you create value for have access to resources that are of value to you. The resources they have maybe skills, knowledge, networks, attention, time or money. And as we know, one of the main resources that is traded for the value you have created and the value that you desire to receive, is money.

Granted, it’s not all about money (at least it isn’t for me). It’s also about the one email, tweet, Facebook or LinkedIn message where you hear from someone the you never met.  In that message they thank you for changing their lives for the better through what you’ve shared. [I’ll share the message I received in a later post]

You may, like me, have forgotten what you wrote. But you will know that it came from a place of compassion, and passion. At that moment you will get that feeling of knowing that what you do and who you are really does matter.

I say all that to say this….

i2i TMM Global reach 20121119I have been writing blogs fairly consistently now for over a year. I know that it is necessary for me to share what I know and who I am. Until recently, I did not take a look at the web statistics that shows the global reach of what I say about what I know and who I am. The image in this blog was taken from my website stats analysis.

With that said, I want to say a big “thank you” to you for taking the time to read, watch and listen to what I have to say. No matter where you are on this global map (shows the countries that people have viewed this blog from) there are people just like us all over the world that seek to grow, share and walk together on this journey called life.

In 2013, I’ll be focusing most of my thoughts, videos and writing around a few core subjects. This will help me to focus my time, energy and efforts in a way that I will be able to establish a clearer “message” that we can discuss and share together.

Puzzle me this, puzzle me that….

Do you have a message that you wish to share? Have you allowed fear, or the illusion that it does not matter to others to be the reason for not sharing that message? Or have you allowed “planning to prepare” and “getting ready to get ready” to be the reason for not starting or building a rhythm for sharing your message?

If so, please know that what I have done is a baby step. But even the baby step is still a step forward.

This is all that we need to do. It may not be perfect, it may not be as consistent as we desire (at first), but is, can be and will be SOMETHING.

This is not about you, this is about them. All the people in the orange and red countries of your global reach map waiting to hear what you have to say. It may start small, with only one blog or video. It will become more, in time.

And in time you will hear the stories of how your words have impacted and changed the lives of others. This is my story, this is my song. And I thank you for taking the time to sing along.

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Invisible, But Essential

The magic of appreciation

Are you in a role within an organisation where you work hard, do the right thing and don’t get the appreciation or recognition that you feel you deserve?

As a programme and project manager a significant part of my duties are administrative.  As with many administrative roles, you’re often given near-impossible tasks with unrealistic deadlines and when you achieve the task the typical response is…..

“OK, thanks….. just leave the report over there”

It’s not that we – who do the day-to-day operational work and don’t necessarily get appreciated – aren’t guilty of doing the same thing.

In fact, I’m sure that today when you turned on an electric appliance you probably didn’t call your electric supplier and thank them for the complex infrastructure, administration and work it took to make it possible for you to flick the switch.

Recognising this, I have, as a standard part of inducting staff into my team, made sure to manage expectations by highlighting this particular fact of life

To illustrate it, I refer to an episode of the deep, philosophical treatise of life on planet earth…. Futurama. In series 3, episode 20 (aka “Goodfellas”) the character ‘Bender’ (a robot) has a conversation with ‘God’.  During the conversation ‘God’ notes the difficulties of leadership (or being God).  “You can’t do too much for them or they’ll get dependent on you.  And if you do too little for them, they lose hope.” Ultimately….. (watch the19 second video for the profound insight)

I say all of that to say this….

Even when you do the right thing and do it well, you may not get recognised. In fact, people may not even acknowledge that you are even necessary.  This is why it’s important to be your own best publicist.  Not that you should always shout about what you do.  Maybe you should allow others to shout about you.

Puzzle me this, puzzle me that….

Do you know your own value? Have you taken inventory on your successes and reminded yourself of your accomplishments?  Have you taken time to thank and acknowledge the accomplishments, work and contribution that others make to your life?

If you are going to show your gratitude, please ensure that you follow a few simple guidelines to saying thank you;

  • Be sincere and authentic
  • Say it when it counts
  • Say it or show it in a way that THEY would appreciate

What often happens from here is magic. And it’s likely that no one will even know you did it…. but that’s OK that’s the way it works.

It works for Tesco, it can work for you

“Every little bit helps” When going for gold

It’s been said that little things mean a lot. In fact, my coach Scott Smith from motivationtomove.com, is famous for saying that

“the way to get what you want is to stand up and take a step and repeat until you get we want to go”

although this is plain, simple and very clear, many times it’s so easy for us to overlook how small the step needs to be. It is truly the little things that can be the difference between being good, great and outstanding.

Let’s consider the difference between gold and silver in the 100 meter dash. The difference between the gold medal and the silver medal in the 2008 Olympic finals was 0.2 of a second. The difference between the silver medal and a bronze medal was 0.02 of a second. This makes it clear that even with all of the talent and all of the skill and dedication that was put forth to make it to the finals, and even the fact that the reaction time of Richard Thompson (silver medal) and Walter Dix (bronze medal) was exactly the same one man received a bronze medal for possibly dipping his head a little further deeper or earlier than the other.

If you really want to look closer, Churandy Martina of Netherlands Antilles did not even receive a medal and yet he to was only 0.02 of a second behind Walter Dix. Every little bit counts. No matter how small or insignificant that you think it may be, it counts for something and can be the difference between being an Olympic medallist and someone that is just another stat in the history books.

Consider again the difference between the winning times in the 100 meter freestyle men’s Olympic swimming competition from the year 2000 to the year 2008. In the 2000 Olympics Pieter van den Hoogenband won the gold medal with a time of 48.17 seconds. In the 2008 Olympics Alain Bernard won the gold medal with a time of 47.21 seconds. In the eight years between these two races improvements were made in the fit of costumes body, smoothing and shaping, diet and exercise and not even mentioning the almost immeasurable difference that the sheer will and determination of the individual can make.

This is not to say that the people who came in second place did not have determination. It could even be said that the difference between somebody shaving their body or not, having a more comfortable better fitting set of swimming trunks could have made that slight bit of difference then allowed times to be better than years before or even just fractions of a second better than the person who came in second place.

I say all that to say this….

There can be times when you feel like giving up, or even like cutting corners.

You sometimes have no idea what level of significance not putting in that extra little bit of effort may have on what you want to achieve. Be bold, be courageous and give it your all. These little things add up and can often make the difference between the best or something else just short.

Puzzle me this puzzle me that….

Have you ever let doubt or fear keep you from giving all that you can give? If so, now you know that you always have more to give because the desire that is in you that seeks expression comes from an endless source. With this knowledge you are now equipped with the knowledge that will encourage you to give it your all in every task that you choose to put your hand, head and heart into.

Looking for a certain-T

Certainty or a certain – T

We’re now well into a year  that started with optimism and the resolve to make this year better than the last.  So we turn on the television or radio and what do we get? Wars and rumors of war.  Civil unrest in the Middle East. More layoffs. 

So many people seem to be searching for ‘certainty’ in what they are getting – when another type of ” T ” would get them what they are looking for.

As a part of my personal development journey, I learned quite a bit from a number of notable personal development coaches and trainers.  One such person, Tony Robbins, says that as human beings, we all have a set of fundamental needs including certainty AND uncertainty.  Although this may, at first, seem contradictory, it makes perfect sense.  We want to know that we can get something, but if we get it consistently for a long time we get bored with it or take it for granted.

So, if you’re looking at 2011 and the path to achieving certainty seems to be like a maze…..  try this map.

While we realise that we want certainty, we can also realise that we get what we focus on.  So if we’re focused on the lack of certainty, we’ll be sure to get more of it.  So, let’s change the focus and use a map.

This map utilises a natural law:

The law of gratitude – When I’m grateful for what I have, everything that I get is a bonus.  This way, I get to enjoy what I have while I  have it, I also get the thrill from receiving whatever else may come.  I can be certain of that.

This map helps you to find other T’s that lead to certain-T.

I have a friend, Kate, who is SO very insightful, supportive, encouraging and inspiring.  She is a gracious and grateful person who utilises another type of ‘T’ to support others and build her business.  Kate starts many of her meetings by simply catching up with people over a cup of  T (tea).  This has become such a successful strategy that “Tea with Kate” is now one of her brands.  This is has become another way for her business to grow.

I have, personally, found that gratitude has put me in the right place to look for another type of ‘T’ ….. opportuni-T. 

When I’m in a place of gratitude I seem to be surrounded by new opportunities that call upon my creativity so that I can grow.  One such opportuni-T led Janet and I to be  hosts for two college students from China.  This gave us a chance to show hospitali-T  which, in turn, increased the income into our home. 

Both of these examples resulted from the act of being grateful followed by giving.  And because it is within our power to decide what we are willing to share and invest, we don’t have to feel apprehensive or at the mercy of fate.  We get certainty from knowing that we have to power to choose and make our destiny.

The end result is that we get the certain’T’ that we originally sought.

I say all of that to say this…

Fate is what happens to those who don’t exercise their free will for the benefit of themselves and others.  Destiny is the reward for those who do.

You can get certainty when you exercise your free will to choose to find a certain ‘T’

Puzzle me this, puzzle me that…

If you were more grateful for what you already have, how much more relaxed would you feel about your future? 

It’s a-maze-ing how quickly the stress about tomorrow melts away when you are grateful for what you have today.

Goal Setting Gets Real

Happy New Year! Welcome to 2011

It’s a new year.  The end of year festivities are over and now we wake up to a world where life (and business) goes on.

This can be a good thing. We get a fresh new start.

It’s a new day, a new year and can be a whole new YOU. 

If you’re feeling a bit lost or uncertain about all of this ‘goal setting’ and ‘fresh start’ stuff…..

I’ve got a map for that!…

Part of the end of year tradition is to make a new year’s resolution.  For many people the resolution will fail before it starts because they failed to add a few small, but VERY important elements to it.  Note that ALL of the steps must be completed in order for you to be successful and to reach your objective.  This particular version is called Think!Speak!Be! (TSB):

  1. Think it through – is it really what you want?  Is your reason for wanting it POWERFUL enough to keep you moving?  If so, go to the next step.
  2. Speak it out loud to make sure it still makes sense.  In fact, tell someone who will hold you accountable.
  3. Be” about it.  This means WRITE IT DOWN, plan and schedule specific actions that you will have to do and when you will have to do them.  Then, to quote the Nike slogan “Just Do It” and monitor your progress regularly.

If you need support, there are a number of tools that I can suggest:

And just to be sure… I’m throwing down the gauntlet and putting MY 2011 goals up for the world to see…

1. Give More – Find ways to contribute to society.

a) Establish a scholarship fund. 
b) Establish an award for people who make a difference

 

2.  Share More  – Find a way to share my experience for the benefit of others.

a) Establish a blog and podcast to share the tools and strategies that I have discovered and will discover.
b) Write a book (printed and ebook)

  

3.  Make More – Money to establish a firm financial foundation for myself, my family and my community.

a) Spend less and spend smarter
b) Reduce the amount of money I owe by 20%
c) Establish and regularly monitor a budget

                                 

4.  Be More – Be more of what I know I can be in my roles as: husband, son, brother (biological and Biblical), friend, colleague.

a) I’ll know I’m on the right track by; the amount of time I spend with the people who matter most to me, the way I feel about the time we spend, the way they feel about the time we spend

  

5.  Get Up – Consistently wake up early to allow myself time to nurture and build my mind and body.

a) I’ll know I’m on the right track by seeing the number of days per week that I exercise and the number of days per week that I complete my undisturbed prayer/meditation time

  

6.  Stand Up – Stand for things (word and deed) that will improve the lives of the people in my community and, when necessary, stand against the things that harm us.

a) Establish a way to promote positive things in my life and my local community

  

7.  Stop – Take specific time out of each week and month to appreciate the places and people who provide richness to my journey.

a) Scheduled (and completed) time away.   Once every two months. 

 

 

8.  Look – Read more, learn more about the world and what makes it work. 

(Knowing that I prefer to listen to books rather than sit down and read one…)

a) Read one book per month

 

9.  Listen – Listen more to my spirit/inner voice, select people, and audio books to guide me so that I can demonstrate wisdom.

a) Establish a forum for others to speak and be heard and to get counsel and input into their lives (and my own)

 

10.  Don’t Worry – Develop tools and strategies to reduce the amount of stress I feel related to work, finances, relationships and my future.

a) I’ll know I’m on the right track by how I feel at the end of each week when I take time out to look at the gems that I’ve found from my experiences

 

11.  Be Happy – Spend more time being grateful and content while still being ambitious and visionary.

a) I’ll know I’m on track by how I see myself and how I’m seen by others (broadly) as being more relaxed

Can you tell that there were a couple of songs that inspired my goals? 

Now I’ve gone and done it!  It’s out there.  And if you are reading this, I now have a whole new (global) level of accountability.  I will be sure to update you on my progress.

I say all of that to say this…

The natural order of things DEMANDS growth.  If you aren’t growing you’re dying.  The key to success is knowing what you want, why you want it and then doing something… ANYTHING consistently to move you toward your objective.

Puzzle me this, puzzle me that..

What commitment can you make to yourself right now that you know will make you feel the way you want to feel?  Start there.  Your next step could be to set bigger, better and more fulfilling goals and then to use a MAP (such as the map in this blog) to get from here to where you want to be.  That could be joy, better health, better relationships, more money or inner peace.  The choice is yours, as long as you are willing to take the first step.

Hello world!

Playtime is over. It’s time to take action.

 

Beyond thought and speech is ACTION.

This is the first blog and is the initial thought in what will become a stream of consciousness from the mind of one man. 

I’m not a guru.  I don’t claim to have all of the answers to everything.  I do, however, realise that I’ve seen a lot of things in my life and I’m eager and happy to share a few of the lessons I’ve learned with others.  When I’ve learned a lesson I’ve documented or stored the lesson so that I can refer to it when I see the same or a similar MAZE appear in my life. 

When a new PUZZLE or MAZE appears, I can reach into my TOOLBOX of resources and confidently say:

“I’ve been there, done that and have a MAP for this particular MAZE.”

This is not a platform or podium to pretend that I’m anything except one man with a plan.  My plan is based on collecting (mapping) many of the scenarios, lessons and insights that I have gained directly or through others that have paved the way before me.

If you are someone who has also taken the challenge to be alive (and not just to survive), then I invite you to walk with me and we can share the tips and insights.  I’ve learned a few techniques, insights and strategies that can help you to develop your own map – because my map may not always work for you.

If you’re not sure where you are or where you want to go, then a MAP is a good place to start.

My name is Marcellus Lindsay.  I am “The Maze Mapper”  and I hope that, together, we can find,use or create a map….

to get you from here to where YOU want to be.